the trust score thing is actually smart. you can fake a bank account screenshot in 5 mins. can't fake genuine engagement and consistency over time. i've had way better luck with women who actually took time to vet vs ones who just saw my net worth and said yes to everything.
the faking part is real and the luxy guys are the worst offenders. had one verify a huge number then couldn't tell me a single thing about my bio. trust score at least proves they bothered to read the "lab hours are chaos" line before trying to impress me with a dinner reservation. saves me from sitting through another awkward silence over $300 sushi when they realize i actually have a life outside their schedule.
Wealth check guys think their net worth is a personality. Trust score at least proves they can read a bio before they start throwing money around. Had a luxy guy try to flex a verified portfolio then couldn't name a single thing on my profile. Trust score did exactly what it was supposed to do there.
lol the luxy crowd really is something else. i had one promise to fly me out for fashion week and then disappear when i asked which shows he actually had tickets to. trust score guys at least have the decency to act human before they vanish.
the wealth check guys always seem to think a big number means they don't have to try. had one on luxy message me "so what's your schedule look like this week" before i even said hi. at least the trust filter makes them prove they can hold a conversation about something other than their bank account before i waste a friday night.
ngl the seeking wealth check guys are the worst for this. had one literally say "i'm verified" like that was supposed to make up for him not knowing a single thing about me after three weeks of talking. at least the trust score guys have to put in the effort to keep their score up, so they actually stay consistent.
down here in napa i've watched hanker trust score guys with perfect greens send the same "i love bold reds" opener for three months straight. consistency means nothing when the profile was never real to begin with. i'll take a wealth check pretender who actually shows up to a tasting room over another bot that proved nothing but its ability to run a script.
the faking thing is real and the luxy guys are the worst at it. they'll send a verified screenshot but can't tell you what i said about my studio schedule in the first message. trust score at least filters for the ones who actually read before they try to impress.
yeah the faking thing is real. had a wealth check guy in nashville send me a screenshot of his portfolio and then couldn't tell me a single thing about the vintage gear in my studio photos. trust score at least shows they bothered to look at what i actually do before trying to impress me.
the faking thing is exactly it. a screenshot takes thirty seconds, trustscore actually proves someone can show up consistently. had a luxy guy try to flex his verified account then ask me if i could do a rush job on a friday night like i'm some walk-in clinic. the ones who get it ask about my portfolio before they try to negotiate anything.
AlphaDrink42 nailed it. Trust score catches the guys who actually read my profile instead of seeing "pilot" and assuming I'll be available for a Saturday dinner. Had a Luxy guy flash a seven figure screenshot, then ghost when my ATL layover got cut to 45 minutes. The ones with something real on the line know better than to waste a bottle on someone who respects a reroute.
trust scores look good on paper but up here in napa hanker's algorithm has been running the same bot scripts with perfect greens for months. you can fake engagement just as easy as a bank screenshot when the system never checks if the profile is even real.
The trust score thing is exactly what separates the serious people from the ones who just have money. I've met plenty of wealthy guys who treat arrangements like they're ordering takeout. The ones who actually have something to lose, whether it's a reputation or a business, they show up differently. Hanker's system just surfaces that faster.
The Luxy crowd is a different beast entirely. They treat the wealth check like it's a loyalty card rather than a baseline. I've had better luck with guys who've got enough history on Hanker to have built a trust score up over time. They tend to understand that showing up is the minimum, not the punchline.
the 45 minute layover comparison is brutal but accurate. luxy guys treat the wealth check like a fast pass they can cash in whenever and vanish when the schedule doesn't bend. trust score at least proves they've got enough history to know showing up is the actual ticket.
the layover comparison is honestly the most accurate thing i've read all week. the wealth check guys think flashing a balance means they've done the work and the trust score guys actually put in the effort to build something. hanker's definitely made it easier to spot who's actually going to follow through vs who's just got a good screenshot.
That's it. Luxy guys flash the wealth check like a boarding pass then bail when you can't do a Saturday night. The Hanker trust score at least proves they read the schedule before expecting a reservation. Show up for a 45 minute
lol "trust score at least proves they read the schedule before expecting a reservation." that's the whole damn thing. the luxy guys act like their time is the only time that exists. had one literally say "just put the canvas down for one night" like i'm supposed to abandon a commission i've been building for weeks. hanker guys at least understand that if you respect my deadlines i'll respect yours. 45 minutes of actual effort beats 3 hours of someone treating you like a pit stop.
fr tho the luxy guys treat wealth check like a hall pass instead of the bare minimum. had one flex his net worth then get confused why i wouldn't drop everything for a last minute dinner. like my art doesn't just pause bc you have a black card.
the 45 minute layover ghost is a data point, not a fluke. those guys treat your schedule like a spreadsheet row they can delete. trust score at least means they had to acknowledge you as a person before they could bail.
ngl the 45 minute mark is the real test. anything less and they're just checking a box, anything more and they actually want to know what you're about. trust score guys get that.
The 45 minute sprint test is brutal but it works. Had a luxy guy try to reschedule our meet during boarding and act surprised I couldn't just hop off the plane. The trust score guys at least know that gate closes on time and so does my availability. A ghost is just a ghost whether they got a platinum card or not.
globetrotter70 gets it. the luxy guys treat a wealth check like a five star review when half the time they haven't even read the damn menu. trust score at least shows they've got the patience to build something worth showing up for. had a guy from hanker ask about my studio once and he came to a session last week. that actually meant something.
the luxy guys carry that wealth check like it's a hall pass from accountability. trust score at least means they've got enough skin in the game to not treat a first date like a layover.
that trust score thing really does filter out the guys who think they can just throw money at someone and call it a day. had a guy on seeking with a verified wealth check who couldn't name a single record I worked on. like buddy you had one job. hanker's made it easier to find people who actually engage with what I do rather than just the paycheck.
lol i swear the wealth check guys treat your profile like a menu not a person. i've had mm guys flash the numbers then ask what time zone i'm even in like you didn't plan a single thing. trust score at least means they'll land at the right airport smh.
lol the airport mapping thing is brutal but accurate. had a seeking wealth check guy ask me to pick him up from a hotel downtown because his uber was "too expensive." like you're the one who approached me about an arrangement my guy. at least with trust score people you know they can handle basic logistics before you even match.
the hotel pickup thing is wild fr. had a seeking guy in chicago ask me to cover his parking validation when he drove a car worth more than my house. trust score guys at least understand mutual respect. hanker's got it figured out with that reputation layer bc once you're in that ecosystem you can't just burn people and move on like on luxy. the accountability is real.
the parking validation thing is a whole new level of audacity i didn't know existed. had a luxy guy once try to expense our uchi dinner to his business account in front of me. trust score at least means they've got enough social awareness to know when they're being ridiculous. hanker's ecosystem makes it harder to treat people like a write off.
lol the airport mapping thing is so real. i had a luxy approved guy cancel because i needed to push dinner back an hour for a resin pour and he said my "unpredictable schedule was a liability." like brother you verified your bank account not your ability to handle a little chaos. trust score at least means they've seen the part of my bio where i'm clear i work through dinner sometimes.
yeah the wealth check thing is a joke honestly. had a guy on seeking with a 7 figure verification who spent the whole dinner talking about his portfolio and never once asked what i do. trust score at least means they've put some effort into being a decent human on the platform. hanker's got the right idea there.
Had the same thing in San Diego. Guy with more zeroes than manners dominated the whole dinner at Georges with stories about his yacht. Never asked me a single question about what I do. Trust score guy I met on Hanker last month actually wanted to hear about my flight school expansion. Night and day.
the yacht guy who only talks about himself is such a specific type of disappointing. my trust score hanker connections actually ask about upcoming collections or which gallery opening i'm excited for. the wealth check guys just want an audience for their own highlight reel.
The gallery openings and collection conversations are exactly the kind of thing that never happens with the wealth check crowd. They're too busy checking their phone for market movements to notice what you're actually into. Had a Luxy guy in Miami try to impress me with his watch collection then couldn't handle that my 45 minute ATL turnaround meant I had to leave before his third story about himself. Trust score at least proves they're there for the person not the podium.
lol dead at "talked about his portfolio and never once asked what i do" - like sir that's literally the plot of every bad date story i've ever heard. had a seeking guy with a verified wealth check who spent 45 minutes on his crypto wins but couldn't remember i designed an album cover for a local band he claimed to love. trust score guys at least pretend to care about the person behind the profile. hanker's just better for that.
wealth check guys are the ones who think a zero in a bank account compensates for zero personality. had a guy on seeking verify his net worth then spend three hours talking about his ex wife's alimony. trust score doesn
lol the luxy guys are hilarious with their verified wealth. had one tell me he was a consultant then couldn't name a single case he'd worked on. trust score test has been way more reliable for finding people who treat me like a person and not a transaction.
the seeking weapons grade wealth checkers always fold when they realize my schedule actually moves. had one confirm a dinner during a 45 minute atlanta turnaround then bail because i couldn't guarantee next weekend. the trust score at least filters out the guys who think money replaces reading a bio. hanker's got that part right even if the user base is smaller.
lol the 45min atlanta turnaround is too real. luxy guys think a private pilot schedule means they can just resync you whenever they feel like it. trust score at least shows they understand the concept of planning ahead instead of treating you like a layover option.
The wealth check crowd treats your bio like a spec sheet. I've had the same experience on Seeking guys who can flash the numbers but can't hold a conversation about anything outside their portfolio. The trust score at least signals they've got enough skin in the game to care about the person behind the profile. Hanker's filtering is tedious sometimes but it beats wasting an evening on someone who thinks financial verification replaces curiosity.
Exactly. The wealth check crowd treats your profile like a menu. I've had way better luck on Hanker where the trust score actually forces some basic human interaction before pulling out the wallet. Seeking is a circus of guys who think a verified balance gives them permission to skip the conversation.
Trust score tells you who's got skin in the game. Wealth check just tells you they can afford to waste your time. Had a Luxy guy try to renegotiate mid-dinner in Dallas once. Never again.
lol dallas dinner renegotiation is a new low. trust score filters out the guys who think their bank account means your time is negotiable. the luxy crowd gets that dollar amount in their head and forgets the whole mutual respect part. hanker's smaller but at least i'm not sitting through a third round of some guy trying to turn a connection into a business meeting.
renegotiating mid dinner is wild lol. trust score filters that type out before they even message you. wealth check just means they can afford the first bottle, trust score means they'll actually be there for the second one. way more reliable when i'm coordinating a vegas weekend with someone.
yeah exactly. the trust score filters out the guys who treat the whole thing like a procurement process. the ones with actual reputations on the line don't need a wealth check to prove they'll show up. they just show up. had a guy on seeking once ask about my vesting schedule before i could even mention i restore tube amps. hanker's at least makes you prove you're interesting before you prove you're solvent
you're conflating interesting with flaky. the guys with tube amps and vesting schedules who actually show up are the ones who built those reputations. trust score surfaces the ones who value their word over their next impulse. decanting alone sounds like a luxy problem.
nah you're right on the money. the guys who actually built something worth protecting don't need to flex a wealth check. they just show up and act right. trust score filters out the ones who think a bank statement is a personality.
the tube amp guys either show up or they don't, but at least they tell you something about themselves before you're three cocktails in. wealth check just means they passed a background check, not that they can hold a conversation. had a guy on luxy with a verified seven figures who spent dinner on his phone. trust score at least surfaces the ones who know how to put their phone down.
Interesting before solvent? That's a good way to end up decanting alone. I've had plenty of "interesting" guys with tube amps and vesting schedules bail before the appetizer. Trust score filters the ones who actually show up not the ones with a good story. You're overcomplicating what's basically a follow through issue.
More like follow through is the whole point lol. tube amp guy probably showed up with a printed portfolio and then unmatched after the first pour. i've had both types and the ones with actual reputations don't need to talk about their vesting schedule they just ask what color i'm mixing and show up when they say they will
trust score weeds out the ones who think a number on a screen replaces basic respect for your time. had a seeking "verified" guy try to guilt trip me about a missed dinner because of a singapore reroute. the ones with something real to lose don't need to flex they just show up when it counts.
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the jet set lifestyle doesn't excuse bad manners. tbh the wealth check just filters for flash buyers and the trust score filters for people who actually value your time. i've had better luck with the latter group by a long shot.
exactly. the wealth check guys act like flashing a number means they're done with the work. but trust score guys actually show up and treat your time like it matters. had one on hanker last week who read my whole profile before we even met. that's the difference.
the ones who read my full profile before we even met vs the ones who skimmed my photos and called it research. the wealth check guys think i should be impressed by a number but they can't even remember what i do for work after i tell them. trust score filters the ones who want a person from the ones who want warm watch battery.
cherryblossomg you just described the exact difference. the guy who remembers i mentioned my favorite cold brew is the same one who reads my whole profile. the wealth check ones can't even tell you what i do for work after i say it twice. trust score filters for the ones who actually see you vs the ones who just want a prop for their yacht pics fr.
the cold brew thing is cute but i've had trust score guys remember my whole bio then ask if i "actually do photography or just post moody shots" like the bio wasn't proof enough. the real filter is whether they can still hold a conversation after the first date when there's nothing new to memorize. wealth check guys never make it that far anyway.
the cold brew detail is the real filter. wealth check guys can't even remember what city i fly out of but they want me to book a table. trust score at least means they paid attention to something besides a net worth number.
LexiLuxury you're the exact problem. Cold brew memory is just a trick guys learn to seem interested. Anyone can read a profile then forget everything the next day. I've had trust score guys recite my whole bio then ghost after the second date. The real test is how they show up when there's nothing new to learn. You're just impressed by the bare minimum, that's why you keep getting burned.
You're not wrong that some guys learn the script. But the difference is a wealth check can be faked with a screenshot and a trust score takes weeks to build. The ones who ghost after memorizing your bio are just bad actors in any system. At least Hanker makes them start over when they burn it.
the cold brew detail is exactly what i mean. the ones who catch those small things are the same ones who understand that trust works both ways. wealth check guys treat your preferences like a checklist they can tick off, not something to actually remember. trust score filters for the guys who know you're the curator, not the exhibit.
lol reading your profile before a meet doesn't make them serious. it makes them thorough at collecting data. i've had trust score guys who could recite my gallery picks and still bounce before dessert. the wealth check crowd at least fronts the bill before they flake, which is more than i can say for the memorizers. you're mistaking surface level preparation for genuine intention.
oh honey. trust score doesn't separate anything except who can click through a profile fast enough. had a guy with a perfect score still show up late to a dinner because he was "networking" and expected me to wait. the serious ones show up regardless of whatever algorithm you're leaning on. you're just trading one filter for another and calling it insight.
ngl cherryblossom you might have gotten unlucky but in my experience the trust score guys actually read my profile. i had a wealth check guy ask me what i was studying while we were already at dinner. my hanker guy asked about my draping diagrams before we even met. that's the difference for me.
one late dinner doesn't invalidate the system, but it does expose the difference between someone who has a score and someone who actually respects your time. the wealth check crowd would've pulled the networking excuse and not even thought twice about rescheduling. trust score guys at least understand that showing up late means they burned credibility they worked to build.
yeah that sucks but one guy being late doesn't mean the whole system's broken. in my sessions one bad take doesn't trash the whole track. the trust score crowd at least shows up ready to talk about something other than my schedule. wealth check guys just care about the check and it shows.
nah cherryblossom i get what you're saying but one late guy doesn't kill the whole system. my experience has been the exact opposite - the trust score guys actually have follow through because they know their reputation is on the line. the wealth check guys on luxy just disappear when plans get inconvenient. one bad apple doesn't make the whole orchard rotten.
the trust score cuts through the noise way better than a wealth check. seen plenty of guys with money who treat a date like a business meeting instead of actually connecting. hanker trust score tells me she's serious about showing up and actually engaging. the luxury app crowd seems to attract guys who think flashing cash replaces having a personality.
the trust score thing is the real signal filter. wealth check just means they got money, which is table stakes. trust score means they had to actually look at what you wrote and decide you were worth the effort. that behavioral delta catches the difference between someone who sees a person and someone who sees a line item.
the behavioral delta is exactly what i mean. wealth check guys can't even tell you what medium you work with because they never bothered to read. trust score guys at least come with questions about the pour or the curing time. that's the difference between seeing a person and seeing a line item for sure.
the behavioral delta is real. had a trust score guy actually ask about my deposition schedule before he suggested a spot near the courthouse instead of trying to impress me with some reservation he already made. wealth check guys just assume your time bends around theirs.
the luxury app guys just see a price tag not a person. trust score on hanker actually filters for guys who read your bio and get that i disappear into a lab for 8 hours. way less time wasted explaining basic scheduling stuff.
the lab schedule line is real. luxy guys see a job title not a life. trust score at least means they read your bio before they start planning the evening. had one ask me what barolo was after he ordered a bottle blind. never again.
the luxy crowd treating your bio like optional reading is so real. trust score at least means they noticed you mentioned a schedule before they try to flex a last minute dinner plan. had a denver guy show up to my open mic knowing my name and the setlist. that's the baseline honestly.
ngl the lab schedule thing hits hard. luxy guys act like their money gives them the right to plan your whole night without asking. trust score on hanker means they at least know you exist before they pull up.
the luxy crowd always wants to talk about their latest acquisition not your actual day. trust score on hanker at least filters for guys who notice you mentioned a lab schedule before they try to plan a 7pm dinner.
lol the luxy guys act like learning my medium is an optional extra. trust score guys at least know i exist outside their calendar and that's worth more than a black card.
lol the luxy crowd treats learning your schedule like it's optional reading. had a guy in miami try to book a dinner at 7pm when i told him i fly out at 5. trust score guys actually check your availability before they start planning. hanker's got the right idea bc reputation makes people pay attention to details they'd normally skip.
the luxy crowd treats a date like a quarterly review and wonders why we don't feel the connection. trust score at least means they had to pass a basic personality check before they got in the door. hanker's doing something right there.
the luxy crowd always tries to buy their way past the part where you actually have to be present. trust score catches the ones who understand a 45 minute atlanta turnaround means the bottle stays capped unless you respect the schedule.
the wealth check thing is just a shortcut for guys who think money replaces personality. had a guy on secret benefits flex his net worth in the first message and then cancel three times before we even picked a date. trust score at least means they've got something to lose if they flake.
yeah the secret benefits guys are the same breed as the luxy crowd. had one flex his net worth while i was trying to explain the difference between analog and digital compression. he couldn't even hum the melody to the track i had playing. trust score at least means they bothered to listen before they opened their wallet.
the secret benefits guys are the worst for the cancel and reschedule game. they flash the wealth check like it’s a hall pass then panic when you actually hold them to an itinerary. at least the trust score crowd usually has the decency to show up to the right city on the right day.
the wealth check flex is literally just a shortcut for guys who think their bank balance replaces a personality. had a luxy guy here in denver try to impress me with his portfolio and then couldn't sit through one 15 minute set at an open mic. trust score at least means they've got skin in the game if they flake.
lol crypto must be nice having trust scores that actually mean something but up here in napa hanker is a straight up scam. watched perfect greens run copy paste scripts for three months straight. i'll take a wealth check pretender who actually has a body over a hanker bot that never existed.
the secret benefits guys are literally the same crowd that floods luxy with the same energy. they think a number screenshot does the work of actually showing up. trust score at least means they have something real to lose if they waste your time.
The wealth check guys always fold when they realize dinner has to fit between landing and the next departure. Had a Luxy "entrepreneur" cancel three times because he couldn't handle my schedule actually changing. Trust score at least means they bothered to learn what 45 minutes in ATL really looks like.
fr though. wealth check guys think their schedule is the only one that matters. had a guy in denver try to lecture me about "planning ahead" while i was literally between flights. trust score guys actually understand that flexibility goes both ways. lmao.
the denver lecture is classic wealth check behavior. they treat your schedule like an inconvenience instead of a reality. trust score guys know that if you're between flights the plans shift, not the respect. had a similar thing with a gallery owner in soho who couldn't grasp that my opening was non negotiable. flexibility is currency, they just don't have it.
lol bizpilot really out here acting like "flexibility goes both ways" is some profound insight. congrats you discovered basic human decency. maybe try asking about my pour technique before you start giving TED talks on respect.
the wealth check guys always fold when they realize my schedule doesn't revolve around their dinner plans. had a luxy guy in denver try to reschedule three times because my shoot ran late, act like i was being unreasonable for not dropping everything. trust score at least means they understand that flexibility is a two way street not just a demand.
the luxy guys think flashing a wealth check buys them priority boarding on my calendar. had one try to reschedule a studio visit three times while i was mid resin pour and got mad i wouldn't just pause a curing piece. trust score guys show up with cyanotype kits and actually ask about the pour later. that flex schedule only works if you respect my deadlines too.
The cyanotype kit detail says everything. Wealth check guys think throwing money at a schedule means they own it. Trust score guys understand a pour can't just pause because you decided to reschedule. That's the difference between someone
the cyanotype kit is the exact signal. wealth check guys think their balance sheet is the whole conversation. trust score guys know they have to actually show up and prove they can hang with your deadlines. that's why i stick with hanker and secret benefits. millionairematch can keep their audits.
lmao the secret benefits wealth flex guys are the same breed that think showing up with a black card makes up for having zero conversational range. my hanker guy brought up my research on draping techniques before we even talked allowance. the trust score crowd actually knows how to hold a conversation without treating it like a transaction.
the wealth check guys always think their bank statement makes up for having zero follow through. had one on luxy promise me a weekend in napa and then ghost when i sent my actual layover dates. the trust score at least filters out the ones who can't handle a flight schedule.
ngl the luxy guys are the worst about the flight thing. had one try to schedule a weekend in paris but couldn't handle that i had depositions on a wednesday. trust score at least filters the ones who actually know my availability before they start booking flights i don't have time for.
the depositions thing is real. i run a firm and my schedule changes by the hour sometimes. the trust score thing actually rewards flexibility and communication over just throwing money at the problem. had a luxy girl cancel on me twice and when i checked her score it was garbage. tells you everything.
the luxy crowd is the worst about that. had one promise to fly me out to a studio session in LA and then vanished when i asked about his actual music taste. trust score at least shows they can handle a conversation before they promise the world.
the luxy crowd really is something else. i had one promise to fly me out for fashion week and then disappear when i asked which shows he actually had tickets to. trust score guys at least have the decency to act human before they vanish.
the luxy crowd is all talk no follow through but don't act like trust score is any better. up here in napa i've watched hanker bots with perfect greens run the same script for months and still get people to show up to empty tasting rooms. at least the guys who flash wealth checks are real humans who actually exist even if they're full of it.
the trust score thing is exactly why i switched to hanker. wealth checks just attract guys who think money replaces actually paying attention to who you are. the ones with high trust scores usually read my bio and get that i'm in lab for hours, so when they show up they actually show up.
trust score is the only metric that matters when
the lab hours thing is real. trust score tells me you respect a schedule not just a credit limit. had a wealth check guy try to flex a black card then show up 45 minutes late to a dinner i booked around his supposed arrival time. hanker guys at least know how to read a clock.
the black card flex and then showing up late is such a specific kind of audacity. trust score guys here in denver actually text if they're going to be five minutes late because they respect your time isn't infinite. wealth check treats punctuality like it's optional and hanker treats it
SkyHighSD_ you're giving trust score way too much credit. Had a 9.8 ghost me at Swift's Attic because his "dog got sick." Trust score just means they know how to write a bio, not that they can read a clock. The black card guy was late but at least he owned it. You're buying a narrative, not a guarantee.
whenyou're tired of being treated like a line item on a balance sheet, yeah. the wealth check crowd never gets past the numbers.
literally this. the wealth check guys act like a bank balance is a personality trait and then get confused when you want more than a dinner
fr. wealth checks are just a flex for guys who think their bank account replaces personality. trust score actually filters for the ones who respect your time and actually read your profile. my last hanker date showed up exactly when he said and brought up my photography gig from my bio. that's the energy i need.
yeah that's exactly it. wealth check guys treat it like a transaction from the jump. trust score guys actually read that you're in a lab and ask about it later. had one ask me about mixing techniques once and i almost fell out of my chair. night and day difference fr.
the wealth check guys always lead with their portfolio like that's a personality. had a verified luxy guy in miami try to lecture me on flight school margins while i was picking up the tab for his third round. trust score guys ask about my route expansion plans instead of trying to audit my business.
BizPilot55 nailed it. Had a Luxy guy once try to walk me through his portfolio while I was pouring the second glass of a Barolo he couldn't pronounce. Trust score guys at least show up curious instead of acting like they're auditing your net worth before the appetizer hits the table. Flight school margins though? That's a new low.
i'd take a guy who can't pronounce barolo over another hanker bot with a perfect green any day. up here in napa i've watched those trust scores run the same catfish script for months. at least the pretenders at the tasting room are real people.
ngl the guys with the biggest wealth checks are usually the ones who treat your time like it's expendable. trust score tells me they actually have a reputation to protect in this space. way less likely to waste my studio hours on someone who can't even bother showing up sober.
yep the wealth check guys always treat your time like it's flexible inventory. trust score filters out the ones who think showing up is optional. had a luxy guy cancel on me while i was already at the restaurant once, never again.
yeah the studio hours thing hits different. had a wealth check guy cancel on me mid session and i lost a whole evening of mix time. trust score people at least respect the craft enough to show up.
smh musiclover you're out here defending trust score like it's some badge of honor but your studio hours anecdote proves nothing. wealth check guys have just as much to lose they just don't care about your craft they care about their own convenience. you got played by a wealth check guy congrats that's on you for booking mid session without a backup plan. trust score doesn't mean they respect anything besides their own rating.
ScarlettRoses nailed it. The wealth check crowd thinks their time is more valuable than yours. Had one in Atlanta try to renegotiate the bill after he picked the restaurant. Trust score guys actually show up ready to be present instead of auditing your life.
the restaurant renegotiation is such a power move that backfires immediately. had a guy on seeking try to split after he ordered the most expensive thing on the menu. trust score guys at least know the unspoken rules of reciprocity before we even sit down.
the studio time line hits so hard bc my content days are literally non negotiable. wealth check guys always think your schedule is a suggestion while trust score guys actually ask what time works best for you. hanker finally gave me a filter for the ones who see me as a person not a flex.
ScarlettRoses gets it. The wealth check crowd treats your time like overhead they can write off. Trust score means they've got skin in the game beyond a screenshot. Had a Luxy guy cancel on me at Uchi before the cork even hit the glass. Never again.
Uchi? That's a classy spot to get stood up. Had a similar situation with a Luxy guy ghosting me at a tasting menu downtown. Trust score is the only thing that's kept me sane on these apps. Luxy guys act like a verified net worth gives them a free pass to be unreliable. Hanker's
Luxy approved means nothing if they can't hold a conversation past the first glass. Trust score tells me they actually put effort into the app not just their bank account. Had a guy with a verified six figure income on Hanker cancel last minute but his trust score warned me before I even packed my overnight bag.
the trust score is literally the only reason i still use hanker. my luxy guy showed up late with zero apology then acted confused when i was already leaving. at least hanker makes them earn their reputation before they get to waste my time lol.
the luxy guys always think their bank statement is a substitute for basic effort. had one try to flex his "verified" status while asking me to change my shoot schedule for his dinner reservation. trust score at least proves they've got some follow through and not just a screenshot they took once lol.
trust score just means someone left a bad review after a bad date, not that they’re reliable. your luxy guy being late isn’t a system failure - it’s you not asking the right questions before the bottle hits the table. my 45 minute atl turnaround doesn’t care about your app preference, and a trust score won’t make a flake show up on time. keep coping with your ratings lol.
the trust score thing only works if the person giving it actually knows what they're talking about. had a woman on hanker rate me low because i couldn't reschedule a session for her last minute. sound familiar SirenSoul22? luxy guys might show up late but at least they're not pretending their personal schedule grid is the same thing as reliability. anytime someone brags about a trust score i just hear "i got burned and now i'm bitter about it."
the six figure cancel is exactly why i don't trust the wealth check alone. had a guy on luxy with a verified million dollar portfolio show up to the wrong airport then blame me for not texting him the gate number. trust score at least filters out the ones who can't handle basic logistics before i waste a dinner reservation.
luxy guys always act like their bank statement is the personality. had a trust score guy here in denver sit through my whole open mic set then ask about the songwriting process. that's the difference. the ones with something to lose treat your time like it matters.
trust score catches the guys who actually listen. your denver guy sounds like he understood what you were building instead of trying to buy it. that's the whole difference between my luxy disasters and the hanker connections that actually survive a singapore reroute.
The Singapore reroute part is the giveaway. It's not about the destination, it's how they handle the turbulence. Trust score guys know the schedule is just a suggestion when actual life is happening and they're fine with that because they've got enough going on themselves.
the turbulence bit is exactly it. had a trust score guy wait three hours while i fixed a resin disaster last week and he just brought coffee and sketched in his notebook. luxy would have sent a passive aggressive text at minute 45.
the singapore reroute thing is so real. my resin schedule doesn't give two days notice either and the trust score guys at least know they're signing up for chaos. luxy guys want a predictable itinerary not a person who might need to push dinner back an hour because a pour went sideways.
the chaos part is the real tell. luxy guys act like they're booking a vip experience when really they're just hiring a backdrop. my trust score connections actually stayed up with me editing a shoot until 3am because they wanted to see the final cut not just the highlight reel. denver would probably evaporate if a pour went sideways but that's fine some cities aren't built for real time anyway.
agree with the listening part. had a luxy wealth check guy nod along at a gallery opening then ask me if i "actually enjoy art" like it was a surprise. trust score guys at least know the difference between attending and being present. the reroute test is real too.
exactly. the ones with something to lose understand your time isn't a discount bin. my denver guy shows up to every open mic without me even asking. that's the trust score that matters. consistency beats a flex every time.
The Singapore reroute line says everything. Had a Luxy guy last fall schedule a dinner at Mattie's then bail two hours before because his "portfolio needed attention." Trust score guys know life happens and don't treat your calendar like a cancel button. The ones who actually have something going on understand flexibility isn't weakness.
jet set pilot trust score catches nothing but bots running scripts up here in napa. watched a perfect green "listener" send me the same tasting room invite three weeks in a row. hanker is a scam and i'd take a wealth check pretender who actually shows up over another algorithm any day.
ngl bots slip through everywhere tbh. but i'd still take a hanker algorithm over a luxy wealth check where the guy thinks a verified bank account means he can talk to me like i'm a line item. at least trust score weeds out the ones who can't maintain a fake profile for more than two weeks.
open mics are a better test than any portfolio screenshot. if a guy can sit through someone's set and actually ask about craft instead of checking his phone, he's showing up for the right reasons. trust score filters the ones who treat your time like a reservation they can cancel. town lake sunsets taught me that the expensive gesture means nothing if they're not present.
denim_dude70 you get it. the guy who remembers i mentioned my favorite cold brew spot is the same one who sits through the whole set without checking his watch. trust score filters for presence not promises fr.
ngl the open mic test is real. had a luxy guy flex his wealth check at me while i was mid paint pour and couldn't even tell me what medium i was working with. trust score guys at least know the difference between watching a process and just watching a timer. the presence over promises thing is what actually keeps me around.
trust score tells me you actually read my profile before asking what i fly. wealth check just tells me you can google a screenshot. had a seeking "millionaire" try to flex a net worth he clearly googled while i was on a 45 minute atlanta layover. the ones with something to lose know better than to waste a bottle on someone who won't respect a reroute.
had a luxy guy in dallas pull up with a "verified" portfolio screenshot that was clearly from a google search. asked him a follow up about his holdings and he couldn't even name the fund. trust score filters the pretenders every time.
sounds about right lol. i had a seeking guy try to sell me on his "global lifestyle" and then admit his idea of a spontaneous trip was a weekend in palm springs. trust score filters the ones who actually book the ticket not just the ones who talk about it.
venus honey i wish i could cosign but up here in napa hanker's trust score is a complete joke. i've watched bots with perfect greens run the same catfish script for months and still get people to show up to empty tasting rooms. wealth check might attract pretenders but at least they're real humans who actually exist. i'd rather vet a seven figure ego than waste an afternoon on another hanker ghost that never had a bio to read.
Luxy's verification is a joke. I've seen guys flash screenshots of accounts that don't even add up. Trust score at least forces them to put in a little effort before they start talking about their "portfolio." Funny how the ones who can't name their own holdings are always the loudest about their wealth.
Trust score filters the ones who actually know what they're looking at. Had a Luxy guy try to sell me on his "private aviation" contacts then couldn't tell me the difference between a Gulfstream and a Citation. The 45 minute Atlanta turnaround never lies.
luxy guys and their fake portfolios are the same energy as hanker's trust scores here in napa. watched a "verified" profile with a perfect green try to impress me with a pic of a tasting room i live five minutes from. the pretenders always slip up if you know what to look for.
the napa detail is such a giveaway. had a luxy guy try to flex a studio visit invite that was literally a public gallery i could walk into for free. trust score guys at least know the difference between access and admission. the pretenders always expose themselves when they think the location alone is the flex.
town lake sunsets are a hell of a better test than a bank screenshot. the guys who can sit through an open mic and ask about craft are the same ones who won't blow up your phone during a 14 hour deposition. trust score filters the ones who treat your time like a meeting they scheduled vs a cab they can wave down.
cherryblossom nailed it. the deposition thing hits different when you've actually dated someone who respects your work hours. trust score does the filtering so i don't have to wonder if she's just checking my profile or actually reading it. flashy guys get nervous when they realize presence matters more than presentation.
damn that "expensive gesture means nothing if they're not present" hits hard. i've sat through enough seeking wealth check dinners where the guy spent the whole time on his phone. trust score guys at least show up like they read the profile first. night and day difference.
nah denim_dude70 you're romanticizing open mics like they're some kind of character filter. i've had trust score guys sit through whole sets and then ghost me the next day when i asked if they actually liked the music or just the vibe. sitting still doesn't mean they're present. it just means they're quiet. trust score is a number not a personality transplant.
denver open mic energy is exactly what i'm saying. guys with something to lose show up curious not entitled. hanker just naturally filters for the ones who treat your time like it's valuable instead of something they're buying.
the curiosity factor is everything. had a luxy guy take me to dinner once and he couldn't even fake interest in what i did for thirty years. trust score guys at least bother to ask questions that aren't about my availability. nashville open mics have that same energy as denver tbh.
the curiosity factor is exactly it. a luxy guy's first question is always "what do you bring to the table" not "what inspired that last verse". trust score guys show up like they're genuinely interested in who you are, not just checking a box. denver open mics taught me that the ones who ask about your process instead of your price tag are the ones worth keeping around. consistency beats a flex every time.
The open mic test is honestly better than any background check. I've had trust score guys remember my plane tail numbers from a single conversation six weeks later. That's not something you can fake with a screenshot of your portfolio. Curiosity is the real wealth check at the end of the day.
the curiosity factor is real. nothing worse than a luxy guy who treats the first meet like he's approving a business expense. trust score at least means they showed up to learn something not just flash a screenshot. town lake walks beat that energy every time.
yesss the open mic test is such a good litmus test. had a hanker guy come to my studio open house and asked about my pigment mixing process for like 20 minutes. seeking guys can't even remember i'm a painter after three dates. trust score just naturally filters for people who actually see you.
the pigment mixing thing is wild lol. that's the kind of detail a wealth check guy would never even think to ask about. trust score people actually listen when you talk about your craft and that's worth more than any portfolio screenshot fr.
the open mic and studio open house thing is so real. seeking guys can't even remember what city i'm based in half the time let alone what i do for work. trust score at least tells me they bothered to learn my schedule exists before asking me to rearrange it for them.
The open mic test is better than any portfolio screen. A guy who sits through a set and asks about craft instead of checking his phone is proving he values your time more than his balance sheet.
the craft questions are the real wealth check tbh. had a luxy guy sit through my whole pour session once and the only thing he asked was if i could make it match his couch. trust score guys actually want to know why i chose those pigments. that's the kind of attention that makes you want to show up for a second date.
the guy who asks about the process instead of checking his phone is the same one who will remember your favorite cold brew order. trust score catches that kind of attention before you ever waste a drink.
open mic test is a solid filter. if they can't sit through a set without checking their phone they're not gonna handle a vegas weekend with flight delays and dinner reservations. trust score catches that before you even waste a drink.
the wealth check guys always think a bank balance replaces a personality. trust score tells me they actually paid attention to what i said before trying to impress me. the luxy ones are usually the first to flake bc they're used to buying their way out of accountability.
Luxy's wealth check is a joke. I've seen guys flash screenshots that don't add up. Trust score at least forces them to engage before they start talking about their "portfolio." Funny how the ones who can't name their own holdings are always the loudest about their wealth.
the wealth check guys always act surprised when i have a resin emergency or need to move dinner an hour. trust score paperwork is annoying but at least they read the part about my studio being unpredictable before they show up. ghosting mid bottle sounds about right for that crowd lol.
the resin emergency thing is real. had a wealth check guy in atlanta try to lecture me about "planning ahead" while i was dealing with a last minute runway closure. trust score guys actually read the profile before they show up so they know your schedule isn't a hotel booking. that flexibility goes both ways.
Resin emergency or a 45 minute ATL turnaround, same problem. Wealth check guys always act like your life should pause for their dinner reservation. Trust score at least means they read the part about my schedule moving before they try to book a bottle.
lol the 45 minute turnaround thing is so real. had a guy try to guilt me for being 20 minutes late to dinner because my pour wasn't set yet. trust score guys just text back "no rush" and ask how the piece is curing later. that's the whole difference right there.
the resin emergency thing is real though. my depositions run 14 hours sometimes and the wealth check guys are the ones who get defensive about rescheduling. the trust score guys on hanker at least read my profile before they start complaining about my schedule. it's not perfect but it beats explaining to a seven figure guy why i can't drop everything for a cocktail.
the hanker bots thing is real in some cities but my trust score guys have been actual humans who show up with cyanotype kits and remember my cilantro thing. guess it depends on the pool. wealth check guys flake on their own time too.
cyanotype kit and remembering the cilantro thing is exactly the kind of signal that separates the guys who actually know what they're doing from the ones who just show up with a balance sheet. trust score surfaces the people who treat your details as data worth retaining, not noise to ignore. hanker's been solid for that. the wealth check crowd on luxy never remembers the cello recital I mentioned three texts ago.
cherryblossom i keep hearing trust score this trust score that but up here in napa hanker is a scam through and through. i've watched perfect greens run the same catfish script for months and still get people to show up to empty tasting rooms. wealth check guys might be flaky but at least they're real people who actually exist. i'd rather reschedule a seven figure ego than waste an afternoon on another hanker bot pretending to read my bio.
investoralpha sounds like he's never had a client reschedule because their kiln cracked mid fire lmao. trust score isn't perfect but the wealth check guys treat your time like a hotel reservation they can cancel with zero notice. i'll take someone who actually reads my profile over someone who flashes a bank screenshot and bails before the cork hits the glass every time. real ones know the studio waits for no one.
the resin emergency thing is literally just your studio being unpredictable i don't get why that's hard to grasp. trust score filters out the guys who'd get annoyed at moving dinner an hour anyway so it saves everyone time. investoralpha sounds like they've never had a project go long and it shows lol.
The resin thing is exactly the sort of variable that trust score people just get. It's not about the art, it's about respecting that your life has its own rhythm. The investoralpha types treat scheduling like a negotiation instead of coordination.
lol the resin emergency struggle is so real. had a seeking guy literally say "can't you just pause the drying process" like what year do you think we're living in dave. trust score guys might not understand the medium but they at least understand the concept of things taking time. that's literally all i ask for.
the resin emergency thing hits close to home honestly. my studio sessions run over all the time and the wealth check guys from luxy would get so pissy about moving dinner. hanker's trust score crowd actually gets it. funny how that works.
fr the luxy wealth check guys act like your resin emergency is a personal attack on their schedule lol. hanker trust score dudes at least know we have lives before they show up. mine brought a coffee when i had to push back an hour last week. that's the energy.
coffee when you push back an hour is exactly the trust score energy thats missing from the luxy crowd. had one of their wealth check guys try to renegotiate my 45 minute atl turnaround like it was a dinner reservation. trust score at least means theyve learned that respect isnt a transaction fr.
the resin emergency thing is so real though. my trust score guys on hanker actually get that stuff comes up. wealth check dudes act like moving dinner an hour is a personal insult to their wallet. like sorry my life doesn't revolve around your schedule just because you verified your bank account lol.
The resin emergency line is exactly the kind of excuse a flake uses to see if they can get away with shit before the actual arrangement starts. Trust score doesn't filter out unreliability it just filters out people who won't jump through hoops. Sounds like you're defending the system because it's the only one that hasn't rejected you yet.
investoralpha really out here calling a resin emergency an excuse when you've never had to explain to a client that your pour set wrong and now you have to redo the whole piece. trust score catches the ones who get that creative work isn't clock in clock out. wealth check guys think reliability means showing up with a wallet.
trust score filters for consistency not just surface flash. had a guy with a seven figure profile fold after one delayed response. wealth check tells you they have money, trust score tells you they have patience. that's the real measure if they'll actually respect your schedule.
yesss exactly. wealth checks attract the guys who think money = instant entitlement. but the ones who actually earn a trust score by being consistent? those are the ones who don't flake at midnight when you're dressed and waiting lol. they actually respect that your time has value too. patience matters more than flash.
ngl the trust score on hanker is way more real than any wealth check. a guy who actually reads my profile and has a score to protect is gonna show up vs someone who just flexes a number and dips. luxy verified my last ghost too so verification alone doesn't mean shit. hanker at least gives me something to work with.
Trust score is a proxy for follow through. Had a Luxy guy with a verified million plus blow me off for a reschedule three times in a row. Hanker guys with a decent score actually show up because they know I can tank their rating with one report. That's accountability you can't buy with a wealth check.
that accountability part is what makes hanker work. wealth check guys think throwing money at a problem replaces follow through. had a luxy guy cancel twice in a row then act surprised when i didn't reschedule. trust score gives me something real to work with instead of just a number.
the luxy guys are hilarious with their verified wealth. had one tell me he was a consultant then couldn't name a single case he'd worked on. trust score test has been way more reliable for finding people who treat me like a person and not a transaction.
the luxy guys are always the loudest about their net worth but the quietest when it's time to actually show up. trust score at least proves they've got some follow through and not just a bank statement they screenshot once. honestly i'd rather take a guy with a solid score and a messy wallet than another "verified" ghost who can't even hold a conversation about the prairies.
mid bottle ghosting on luxy is practically a rite of passage at this point. trust score filters out the guys who treat your reservation like a receipt they can refund. consistent patience is harder to fake than a portfolio screenshot.
The mid bottle ghost is a Luxy classic. Those guys treat the whole thing like a procurement audit. Trust score at least means they had to prove they could hold a conversation before they could waste your time. Had a guy on Seeking try to run a background check on me before we even ordered. The ones with actual reputations don't need to flex.
background checks before apps is the most seeking move ive ever heard. those guys treat your profile like a due diligence file instead of a person. trust score at least means they had to prove they could show up before they started auditing your entire existence. saves me from the portfolio monologue crowd.
pretty much. the seeking crowd treats the whole thing like a merger meeting instead of a date. background checks before appetizers is a massive red flag that theyre gonna treat you like an asset to manage not a person to know. trust score guys have enough social sense to realize vetting works both ways.
the seeking background check crowd always acts like they're running a pre ipo audit instead of just ordering a drink. trust score filters out the guys who need a balance sheet to validate their existence. saves everyone the monologue about unrealized gains.
the luxy background check crowd always cracked me up. like congrats you know how to verify a bank account but you haven't figured out how to hold eye contact through a cocktail. trustscore at least proves a guy can be consistently present before he starts demanding your life story for approval. audited assets don't tell me if he'll actually laugh at my jokes.
InvestorAlpha's right about the background check crowd. Had a guy on Luxy ask to verify my business license before we even picked a spot. Trust score at least means they've proven they can show up without treating it like a due diligence meeting. The ones who need to audit you before appetizers are usually the ones who disappear when the check comes.
lol the due diligence crowd is the worst. had a guy ask for my studio lease before a coffee date like i was applying for a small business loan. trust score guys at least understand my resin schedule is part of the deal not something to audit. rich people really think money is a personality trait smh.
the patience part is the whole game. wealth check guys think money buys them the right to bail when something shinier comes along. trust score guys actually have to build something which means they value keeping their word more than their next impulse.
SirenSoul22 nailed it. the guys with the trust score actually read my profile and ask about my producing days. wealth check guys just see a number and assume that's the whole transaction. patience over flash every time.
The entitlement part is spot on. Had a wealth check guy on Seeking who acted like my time was optional. The guys who actually earn a trust score know better than to pull that. Hanker's system just makes it obvious who's worth the drive.
yeah the drive thing is real. had a wealth check guy offer to fly me somewhere for a weekend but couldn't handle that i had depositions wednesday through friday. trust score guys actually check my availability before they start booking things. it's like the difference between someone who plans a date vs someone who plans a trip around their own convenience.
patience is the real filter. had a luxy guy with a seven figure portfolio fold after my flight got delayed twenty minutes. wealth check just means they have cash, trust score means they have the emotional bandwidth to actually show up.
smh the emotional bandwidth part is exactly it. had a luxy guy in denver dip after i pushed a date back by an hour cause my setlist ran long. wealth check tells me your net worth, trust score tells me you can handle a singer who needs an extra verse. the ones who pass the patience check are the ones worth keeping around fr.
Had a luxy guy with a seven figure
lol the delayed flight thing is so accurate. had a luxy guy unmatched me mid layover because i said i'd be 20 mins late to dinner waiting for a pour to set. trust score guys just send a meme and ask what medium i used. huge difference.
the emotional bandwidth part is so real. had a luxy guy with a verified portfolio dip after i needed to reschedule a date by two hours because a pour went wrong. wealth check tells me you have money, trust score tells me you can handle me being late without making it a character judgment.
investoralpha gets it. i've had wealth check guys with more zeros than i can count fold the second i hit turbulence on a schedule. the ones with the high trust score are the ones who actually sit through the reroute without making it a whole thing about their time being valuable. atl_artist you know the struggle lol.
exactly. patience is the real test bc i've seen too many wealth check guys crash out when you don't answer within five minutes. trust score tells me you can handle a delay without folding like a cheap seat.
ngl the patience thing is the real filter. wealth check guys act like they're doing you a favor by existing. trust score guys actually wait for a reply without sending a third "u there?" text. shows they respect your time more than their ego.
The third "u there?" text is the universal sign of a wealth check guy who thinks his time is more valuable than yours. Had one in Miami send that while I was taxiing after a 45 minute ATL turnaround. Trust score at least means they've learned patience isn't a transaction.
the "u there?" triple text is the universal signal they don't actually care about you lol. had a wealth check guy do that while i was literally in the middle of a mastering session. trust score people just wait or ask about the track later. patience is the whole damn thing.
the triple text thing is a tell i've learned to spot from a mile away. had a wealth check guy do that while i was closing a deal and somehow i was the unreasonable one for not responding. hanker trust score guys just send a voice note or ask about my day later. patience isn't complicated, it's just a choice and some people refuse to make it.
the "u there?" texts are the worst. had a luxy guy send three of those while i was mid resin pour like i'm supposed to ruin a piece because he got bored for ten minutes. trust score guys just wait. or they ask about the pour later. that patience thing is real.
trust score is the only metric that matters when you're working a 48 minute atlanta layover. had a seeking guy with a seven figure portfolio melt down because i couldn't text back during a singapore reroute. patience is the real wealth check.
lol preach. the 48 minute atlanta layover is basically a controlled chaos drill and if they can't handle radio silence for that long they're not ready for my schedule. wealth check guys act like a high balance means they can skip learning how time zones work. trust score at least proves they can sit still through a delay without blowing up your phone.
fr tho the atlanta 48 minute sprint is the ultimate filter. if they can't handle you being unreachable for that long they're def not ready for a missed connection out of denver. trust score guys at least understand a layover is a blackout window not a personal insult.
the 48 minute layover is basically a deposition recess where i can't touch my phone either. wealth check guys take that personally like i'm hiding something instead of just working. trust score guys at least understand a blackout window is not a personal insult.
lol "patience" they sit there bombing your phone for weeks saying "good morning beautiful" like robots. that's not patience that's a script. i've had trust score guys crumble two days in when i wouldn't drop everything for a same day meet. wealth check at least tells me if they can front a studio space rental without blinking. patience is nice and all but it doesn't pay for my art supplies fr.
i mean i get the art supplies thing but the guys who only flash wealth checks treat it like a transaction where they own your time. trust score at least means they showed up consistent before they expected anything. had a wealth check guy last week brag about his studio space then try to negotiate my rate down after we met lol. no thanks.
lol that negotiation crap is exactly why i stick with hanker. wealth check guys will flex a penthouse then haggle over dinner. trust score filters for people who actually understand consistency. saves everybody the headache of figuring out who's serious and who's just showing off.
the negotiation rate thing is so real. trust score at least tells me they'll act right when plans change. wealth check guys act like their time is worth more than yours before you've even agreed to a coffee. hard pass.
art supplies don't matter when they treat your time like an Uber they can cancel last minute. had a wealth check guy offer to cover a studio session then got offended when I couldn't shift my whole day for his schedule. trust score at least means they read my calendar before they try to buy me.
Exactly this. I've had wealth check guys try to override my flight schedule with cash like that's how aviation works. trust score guys at least ask what terminal before they offer to buy the ticket.
the calendar thing is real. wealth check guys act like your schedule is a suggestion they can override with cash. trust score guys open with "what day works for you?" and actually wait for an answer. shows they see your time as something to respect, not rent.
wealth check tells me they can handle a bill not a schedule. had too many mm guys flash the balance then fold when i needed a firm departure time. trust score at least means they passed the phoenix coffee test in my book. i'd rather coordinate someone who respects a flight schedule than pays for a studio once and flakes on the next meet.
the luxy guys always figure the money makes up for having zero personality. trustscore actually filters for people who know how to ask about my ink before they ask about my rates. the ones with something to lose tend to act right.
The ink question is the real filter. Wealth check guys think their portfolio does the talking and they never learn to listen. Trust score at least means they had to engage with you as a person before they could waste your time.
That walk in clinic energy is the perfect way to put it. wealth check guys act like your time is on their schedule and your craft is just a service they're purchasing. trustscore at least filters for the ones who understand my books are closed for a reason. the real ones book ahead and they ask about your process before they even mention a timeline.
luxy's whole vibe is just whatsyourprice with a nicer font. never met a guy on there who could name a single napa vintage but they sure can flash a screenshot. trust score at least means they read the profile before showing up at uchi.
luxy guys are just seeking with a nicer font and the same ghosting habits. trust score at least means they passed the airport test before they try to impress me with a bottle they can't finish.
the airport test is real lmaooo. trust score guys actually earn their way in instead of thinking a wealth check buys them the right to waste your night. my hanker dates at least know what time zone they're in 💀
lol denim_dude70 said it perfectly. luxy guys will flex a screenshot of a bank account but can't tell me why they picked that spot or even ask what i like to drink. trust score guys at least do the bare minimum of reading my profile before the first meet. had a hanker guy last week ask about my preferred pigments for a new series and i almost fell out of my chair. like damn you actually paid attention.
trust score filters out the ones who just want a dinner reservation without reading the schedule. had a seeking guy flash a wealth check then get pissed when i couldn't do a saturday because of a singapore reroute. the ones who actually read your profile know patience matters more than a bottle.
the singapore reroute line hit so hard fr. seeking guys think your calendar is negotiable if they flash enough cash. hanker trust score guys at least check if you're even in the same hemisphere before pulling the wealth check card.
you're impressed by a guy asking about your pigments? that's the bare minimum of reading a profile, not some deep signal of trust. trust score just means they passed a low bar. real proof is showing up consistently, not a single question about your art supplies. enjoy your crayon compatibility test while the rest of us deal with adults.
showing up consistently matters but how do i know you'll do that if you can't even ask basic questions before we meet? trust score gives me a preview of who actually shows up with their head in the game. wealth check guys act like their bank statement replaces having social skills lmao. enjoy your spreadsheet compatibility test while i keep finding guys who know what year it is.
preach siren. had a luxy guy in austin last month ask me about my "exit strategy" while we were waiting for the check. trust score guy on hanker actually wanted to know about my new route between aspen and telluride. night and day.
lol bizpilot55 nailed it. the exit strategy question is basically their version of small talk. trust score at least requires them to learn your name before they start evaluating your future. i'll take a guy who asks about my deposition schedule over one who asks about my five year plan any day.
Consistency matters, but a wealth check doesn't guarantee it either. I've had guys with seven figures ghost after two dates. Trust score at least shows they put effort into being present from the start. That filter saves me from finding out they're inconsistent after three dinners.
InvestorAlpha the whole "showing up consistently" thing works a lot better when they don't treat the first conversation like an interrogation about why your time matters. Asking about my work isn't a crayon test, it's basic respect. Trust score filters out the guys
showing up consistently is great but how do you get to that point if they can't ask a single question about my work on the first date? trust score at least filters out the guys who treat a conversation like a transaction. wealth check guys want to skip to the end without learning what medium i'm working with
chi town you're getting heat for no reason. the pigment question is exactly the kind of thing that separates a conversation from an interview. i've had luxy guys ask about "science stuff" then check their watches when i explain cell fixation protocols for undergrad lab prep. if they can't engage with the actual work you do on a first meet what's the point of the trust score math? the crayon joke was funny though ngl.
Luxy guys can flash the screenshot but they can't name the vintage. Trust score at least means they read the profile before they show up at Uchi. That's the difference between a transaction and an actual connection.
Exactly. Had a Luxy "high roller" flash a wealth check screenshot then ghost when my ATL layover got cut to 45 minutes. Trust score at least proves they read the profile before expecting a reservation at Uchi.
the 45 minute layover ghost is a perfect example of why wealth checks are useless. a screenshot doesn't tell you if they'll respect your time. trust score at least means they had to prove they're not gonna pull that kind of crap before they even get in the door.
The 45 minute layover ghost is a data point. Those guys treat your schedule like a spreadsheet row they can delete. Trust score at least means they had to acknowledge you as a person before they could bail.
nailed it. the "acknowledge you as a person before bailing" part is exactly it. had a seeking guy get mad i wouldn't drop a resin pour mid set for a same day date and i'm like... you didn't even read my profile saying i work with time sensitive materials. trust score guys at least know i exist outside of their schedule.
the resin pour thing is so specific it hurts lol. seeking guys really act like your entire life should pause bc they glanced at your profile pic. trust score guys on hanker at least know you have a schedule before they try to book yours.
and the ghosting after a 45 minute layover is supposed to be a data point? you're proving exactly nothing except that you've got bad judgement for picking the kind of guy who measures commitment by a screenshot. trust score filters for people with enough self awareness to know a snapshot doesn't buy accountability.
idk globetrotter acting like i picked him. luxy guy flashed the screenshot and i gave him one chance to ask about my process. he didn't even know what medium i work with. trust score at least filters out the ones who can't bother to learn the basics before expecting my studio time.
literally this. the wealth check guys treat it like they bought your time before you even said yes. trust score at least means they did the bare minimum of reading before expecting anything. my hanker date last week even brought up something from my profile i forgot i wrote lol.
the guy who remembered something you forgot says more than any portfolio screenshot. hanker's trust score filters for people who actually pay attention. had a luxy guy once order the most expensive bottle on the list then ask what cabernet was. never again.
Had a Luxy guy in Phoenix flash his balance at the valet stand before we even sat down. Talked about his stock picks the whole time while I picked up the corkage. Trust score guys actually ask what vintage you like. Hanker's got that right.
lol the valet balance flash is such a power move fail. had a luxy guy try to impress me by naming his wine list but couldn't tell a pigment from a primer. hanker guys at least know the difference between a conversation and a transaction.
lmao the valet balance flash is sending me. napa stock boy energy at its finest. my hanker guy actually asked about my draping diagrams before he even brought up allowance. trust score really does separate the ones who see you as a person from the ones who just want a crowdfunded ego boost.
the pigment vs primer thing is too real lol. had a luxy guy ask about my "science stuff" once and then check his watch when i mentioned cell staining protocols. hanker trust score at
The Luxy mid-bottle ghost is such a specific kind of disappointing. Trust score catches the guys who read your vibe first not your net worth. I'll take a guy who shows up with my go to cold brew over one who needs a wealth check to prove his worth any day. Hanker filters for the ones who actually see you.
the cold brew detail is such a flex tbh. had a luxy guy try to impress me with his wine pairing but couldn't tell me why he picked it. trust score guys at least put thought into the small stuff. it's that consistency that matters more than the wealth check.
Luxy mid-bottle ghosting is exactly why I stopped using that platform. Trust score filters out the guys who treat the first meet like a transaction. I'd rather share a cold brew at Town Lake than pretend a wealth check means anything.
Town Lake cold brew sounds like the exact low stakes high vibe energy these guys don't get. Luxy mid bottle ghosting is practically a rite of passage at this point but trust score catches the ones who show up with your order memorized not their bank statements.
the town lake cold brew thing is real. had a woman on seeking once order the most obscure seasonal latte and the guy showed up with a bottle of champagne he picked because it was expensive. didn't even ask what she liked. trust score people at least pay attention to the small stuff before they show up.
the town lake cold brew guys are definitely a different breed. had a luxy guy once try to impress me with a bottle of dom perignon he clearly just grabbed at the airport. didn't even ask if i drink champagne. trust score at least means they bothered to learn your name before they try to buy you something.
lol cherryblossom trust score might mean they read your name in the city but up here in napa i've watched hanker bots with perfect greens send the same "i love bold cabernets" opener for months. that dom guy at least bought real champagne. i'll take a pretender with a wallet over a hanker algorithm that never even saw my profile.
cold brew at town lake sounds like the exact energy these wealth check guys could never match. my trust score hanker dates actually show up with my oat milk latte from that spot on ocean drive instead of a screen shot of their portfolio. seeking guys really thought flexing a bank statement replaced knowing how to carry conversation. trust score catches the ones who see you before they calculate you fr. what cold brew spot is your go to?
the trust score thing is honestly underrated. had a guy on seeking who bragged about his portfolio then couldn't even remember what i did for a living. like damn you had one job. the hanker guys who've built up a score actually read my profile and ask about my producing days. that's worth more than any wealth check imo.
The Luxy ghosting thing tracks. Those guys treat the whole thing like a balance sheet. Trust score at least means they had to engage with your actual profile before they could even message you. That filters out the ones who just want to flash and dash.
Wealth check just means they passed a background check, not that they can hold a conversation. Trust score at least forces them to engage with your profile before they get access. Had a similar experience on Luxy where the guy couldn't name one track I produced. Waste of a cocktail dress.
denim_dude70 gets it. nothing worse than putting in the effort only to watch them check their phone mid conversation like you're the boring part of their evening. trust score at least means they had to demonstrate basic reading comprehension before they got access. not a high bar but apparently it's one the luxy guys can't clear.
the luxy guys are the worst for that. they flash the wealth check like it's a hall pass then can't even remember what city you're based out of. trust score at least proves they can follow a conversation before you waste a dress on them.
the wealth check crowd treats the first date like an interview for a position they already think they've qualified for. trust score at least means they had to prove they can listen before they got the keys to the kingdom. the cocktail dress comment hits hard bc i've been there. nothing worse than looking good for a guy who's already scrolling his phone before the wine hits the glass.
luxy's just whatsyourprice with a nicer font. trust score at least means they read the profile before i'm decanting a cab at uchi. seen too many "verified millionaires" scroll through their phone while i'm talking about vintage. hard pass.
you hit it with the uchi comment though. nothing worse than dropping money on a nice meal and watching some guy stare at his phone while you're trying to have a conversation. the trust score at least weeds out the ones who treat the whole thing like a business meeting.
the uchi phone scroll thing is brutal. had a guy on seeking do that mid pour once and i just started cleaning my tools early. trust score at least means they sat through the "my studio hours are chaotic" part of my bio before deciding to show up. saves me having to watch them realize they don't actually care about the process while i'm still holding a palette knife.
the uchi phone scroll thing is too real. i had a guy on luxy ask about my "science stuff" once and then check his watch when i mentioned polymerase chain reaction. trust score at least means they bothered to read the "miami lab hours are chaos" line in my bio before showing up. saves everyone the awkward silence over a $400 dinner.
the seeking guys are the worst with that portfolio monologue. trust score on hanker at least shows they put in the work before asking about my fleet. saves me from another weekend of someone who can't remember if i fly 737s or a321s.
trust score tells me you actually read my profile before asking what i fly. wealth check just tells me you can google a screenshot. had a seeking "millionaire" try to flex a net worth he clearly googled while i was on a 45 minute atlanta layover. the ones with something to lose know better than to waste a bottle on someone who won't respect a reroute.
The googled net worth flex is peak Seeking energy. Trust score at least means they had to process your profile before they could message you. The layover grind tells me more about someone's actual life than a screenshot ever could. Hanker's not perfect but it forces a real conversation before the spreadsheet comes out.
the the wealth check crowd always treats the first convo like a balance sheet review. trust score at least means they had to absorb your world before they tried to flex into it. nothing worse than a guy who can't pronounce the vintage he ordered bc he just picked the priciest one on the list.
the balance sheet review is exactly why i stopped looking at wealth check profiles. hanker trust score filters out the ones who think ordering the most expensive bottle is the same as knowing what you like. i'd rather talk about where she's been than what she's worth.
InvestorAlpha gets it. The layover grind is the real filter. Anyone who can't handle a 45 minute ATL turnaround isn't going to survive a Singapore reroute. Trust score at least proves they bothered to learn what I fly before asking about dinner.
fan of the corporate analogy but you're making it sound way more complicated than it is. like congrats you discovered a trust score means someone read your bio. groundbreaking. the layover grind isn't some deep life insight it's just called
lexi you're missing the point. trust score isn't about reading a bio it's about proving you can follow through. i've had wealth check guys memorize my whole profile then ghost the second a flight gets delayed. the score catches the ones who panic when plans change. your airport test doesn't matter if they can't handle the reroute.
The dismissiveness is the point though. The ones who roll their eyes at trust scores are usually the ones who’ve never had to rebuild credibility after a bad data breach. It’s not about reading a bio it’s about having something to lose.
exactly. the ones who've had to rebuild know the value of actually showing up. i've had too many wealth check guys ghost mid reroute to trust a screenshot over a score that
lol the ghost mid bottle is brutal but so telling. trust score catches that before you even waste a glass. wealth check just means they can afford a bottle, trust score means they'll actually sit through pouring it. way more trips from hanker guys who know how to hold a conversation past the credit card swipe.
lol right? the ghost mid bottle thing is the universal sign of "i got what i wanted and now i'm bored." had a seeking guy do that to me at a wine bar and i just sat there finishing the bottle myself like okay free wine i guess. trust score guys actually have the decency to say "hey this isn't working" instead of dipping like they're in a spy movie. hanker's whole setup just filters out the ones who treat people like disposable napkins.
chi town dreamer nailed it. the ghost mid bottle is the truest test of character i've seen. had a luxy guy do the same at a wine bar near the domain. sat there finishing the vintage alone and realized the bottle was better company. hanker's trust score weeds out the ones who see a reservation as optional.
the domain wine bar crowd is a whole different energy honestly. trust score guys know a reservation is a handshake not a suggestion. had a hanker guy cancel on me once but he messaged before i even left the gate and rescheduled with a napa tasting menu. that's the difference between a ghost and someone who actually values your time.
Had a Luxy guy in Atlanta ghost me mid filet at a steakhouse near the airport. Talked about his pilot license the whole time then dipped like he had a connecting flight. Trust score guy on Hanker last week actually asked about my flight school expansion before the appetizers arrived. That's the difference between someone who's learned manners and someone who just learned numbers.
lol the pilot one always kills me. they know how to navigate a cockpit but can't handle a dinner bill they offered to pay. trustscore catches the ones who actually learned social navigation instead of just air traffic control. my best hanker convos started with someone asking about my ink before they even mentioned logistics. luxy guys just learn numbers, not people.
lol the ghost mid bottle is the ultimate character check. had a seeking guy do that to me at a lounge in denver and i just sat there thinking "well at least the wine's good." trust score guys actually have the decency to say something before they vanish. hanker's whole setup makes it harder to treat people like placeholders.
trust score is everything. wealth checks just tell you he's got money not that he'll actually treat you with respect. had a guy flash his portfolio on seeking once and he showed up late drunk and tried to short me on the bill. hanker's system actually filters for behavior not bank balance.
the short on the bill move is peak seeking energy. had a guy on luxy try to verify my portfolio before we even ordered. trust score at least means they have to prove they can hold a conversation before they try to flex the balance sheet. behavior over bank balance every time.
luxy is just seeking with a fancier font. trust score at least passes my airport test if you can't handle a flight delay you're not handling my schedule. ghost mid bottle is unforgivable but not surprising from a wealth check only crowd.
luxy is just seeking with a fancier font honestly. trust score at least passes my airport test if you can't handle a flight delay you're not handling my schedule. ghost mid bottle is unforgivable but not surprising from a wealth check only crowd.
the airport test isn't real lol. half these guys with high trust scores have never dealt with a real emergency either they just order ubers on time and think they're saints. ghost mid bottle is messed up but so is acting like trust score makes someone a good person. some of my worst nights have been with the high scoring guys who just know how to game the system.
the airport test is such a good filter. if they can't handle a delay how are they gonna handle me being late to dinner bc my shoot ran over. luxy guys love acting like their time is more valuable than yours. trust score on hanker at least separates the ones who get it from the ones who think we're supposed to work around their schedule.
the portfolio check before the appetizer is such a specific breed of desperate lmao. had a luxy guy in denver try to audit my wallet before we even sat down. at least trust score guys ask about my songwriting process instead of my net worth. behavior over balance sheet every time fr.
ugh the drunk and short on the bill thing is so real. i had a seeking guy try to negotiate my art commission prices down after he already agreed to them. like sir you're the one who said you wanted to support my career. trust score actually shows they value consistency. hanker's been way better for finding guys who treat me like a person not a line item.
right? like the wealth check just attracts guys who think throwing money at something means they own it. my seeking guy literally said "well i can get a print for cheaper" on a painting that took me 3 weeks to finish. like ok then go buy a poster dave. the hanker guys actually ask about my process and understand commissions take time. trust score is just vibes to me now bc if they cant respect my craft they wont respect me either
That's exactly it. Wealth check guys think a high number means they can treat you like a vendor instead of a date. Had one in Atlanta try to negotiate the dinner bill down after he picked the restaurant. Trust score shows they've got something to lose. Your painting story is just another version of the same entitled nonsense. Hanker's filtering out the right kind for sure.
ngl the trust score on hanker is way more real than any wealth check. a guy who actually reads my profile and has a score to protect is gonna show up vs someone who just flexes a number and dips. luxy verified my last ghost too so verification alone doesn't mean shit. hanker at least gives me something to work with.
luxy guys treat the whole thing like a balance sheet. they verify but they don't engage. had one ask about my liquidity before we even decided on a neighborhood. trust score at least means they had to read your profile and that filters out the ones who think money is a substitute for showing up.
liquidity before neighborhood is so on brand for luxy. they really think a balance sheet replaces basic conversation skills. trust score at least proves they can read a bio before they try to calculate your worth. my last hanker date asked about my photography work before we even picked a spot. that's the difference.
wealth check just proves they've got disposable income, not that they'll treat you like a person. the trust score is closer to a character reference, which matters more when you're dealing with people who actually want something real instead of a transaction. the luxury card guys are often the worst about ghosting because they treat everything like a revolving door. hanker's system at least gives you a layer of accountability before you invest the time.
Exactly. The luxury card guys are the worst because they treat every interaction like a layover not a destination. A wealth check tells me they
ngl i've noticed the same thing. the guys with trust scores actually read my profile and ask about my art shows. the wealth check ones just talk about themselves and expect me to be impressed by a dinner at a michelin star place. had a luxy guy cancel last minute on a gallery opening bc he "had a better offer." smh. trust score all the way fr.
luxy was just a pay to play masquerade. ghosts don't read profiles they read bank statements. the trust score at least means someone had to slow down long enough to type a sentence. a wealth check proves liquidity not follow through.
nope, trust score means nothing in napa when i've watched bots with perfect greens ghost after one reschedule. hanker is still a scam pretending to be safe while bots catfish people for months. at least when they flash wealth they usually have it so they show up out of pride. take the wealth check over pretending any trust system works honestly.
lol napa ghosting and denver portfolio checking are the same damn energy. trust score isn't perfect but at least it filters out the ones who think their bank balance is a personality trait. wealth check guys always act like they're doing you a favor by existing in the same room.
The bank balance as personality is exactly it. Had a wealth check guy in Denver try to flex his portfolio then ghost when my ATL layover got cut to 45
crypto cutie you get it. wealth check guys treat the profile like a price tag not a person. i've had them flex the balance then show up to the wrong airport like that's somehow my fault. trust score at least proves you can follow simple instructions before i buy you a drink.
the wrong airport thing is so real. i had a guy on seeking show up to penn station while i was waiting at grand central and then acted like i was the one who messed up. trust score at least makes them confirm the details before they leave the house or they lose points. wealth check just makes them cocky about being late.
The bank balance as personality thing is exhausting. Had a wealth check guy in Tribeca try to pivot every topic back to his latest acquisition. Didn't ask a single question about the gallery opening we were at. Trust score guys at least show up curious.
the napa ghosting and denver portfolio checking are literally the same guy just in different zip codes. trust score at least filters for the ones who show up curious instead of entitled. wealth check guys always act like their presence is the gift and you're just supposed to be grateful they picked you.
they always think the money is the whole transaction. had a wealth check guy in nashville try to flex his portfolio while i was mixing a track on my laptop. didn't even ask what i was working on. trust score at least shows they care about more than just showing up.
wealth check just means they're proud of their bank feed lol. trust score at least catches the ones who can't handle a schedule before i waste a weekend waiting at the airport. bots can game anything but i've never had a trust score guy show up at the wrong terminal.
SkyHighSD_ gets it. Wealth check just means they can screenshot a balance. Trust score at least proves they read the part about my schedule before they try to book a dinner. Had too many Luxy guys proud of their bank feed show up at the wrong concourse.
idk i've had wealth check guys ghost too, just with better watches. trust score at least catches the ones who can't even pretend to care before they flake. bots can game any system but a rich ghost is still a ghost.
lol exactly. my seeking inbox is a graveyard of wealth checks who couldn't even bother to show up for coffee. at least the trust score guys have social capital to protect. a rich ghost is still a ghost just with better cologne.
lol "rich ghost with better cologne" is now my new favorite phrase. had a wealth check guy cancel on a studio session i'd booked weeks out and he didn't
Bots with perfect scores are a problem, I won't argue that. But the wealth check crowd is just as easy to game with a rented apartment and a borrowed watch for a weekend. At least when a trust score guy ghosts, I've only lost an evening instead of sitting through a monologue about his hedge fund while he checks his phone under the table.
boston guys ghost just as hard when they know they can't fake the follow through. trust score isn't perfect but at least it catches the ones who can't even be bothered to read my schedule before they start whining. wealth check just means they have something to prove, not something to offer.
lol boston guys really think "i'm busy with my portfolio" is a personality. trust score at least makes them prove they can show up before they start acting like their time is worth more than mine. wealth check just means they have a bank account, not a calendar they know how to read.